Don't cry over spoiled milk

with that being said what's done is done. It's in the past now so pick your face up dry your tears and throw all of that SHIT out of the window with the pain and sorrow and any emotions that will hinder you from being a better you TODAY! No need in crying over spoiled milk or broken glass.. these sayings can be parallel to the life you live.. If it can not be fixed don't fix it and move the hell on with life.. Remember you only have one life to live so make it your best!!!! Just some words for your day!! Love you smooches!!

Bonfire

I'm going to be open and intimate with you all about a past "fuck". I call him that because now that I look back that's exactly what i was to him and him to me. I will forewarn you now.... NEVER ATTACH EMOTIONS TO SEX UNLESS IT'S A MUTUAL AGREEMENT!!! Now this went on for at least 4 years... I know shame on me DAMN!!! So back in the day before the kid I was in a "situation" (not relationship, which often gets confused). Met a guy that was easy and pleasing on the eyes. He was slick with his word game which intrigued me more. The brother had three jobs and his own place... OWWWWW right. Yeah only for a little while. He asked for a date which I agreed. I was picked up and greeted with a rose and the opening and closing of the car door (such a gentleman, momma did raise him right). So dinner then back to his place, tv and yes you know what happend next. Sex! It was great too. So I'm back home feeling great. A week goes by and then the text messages start coming in and going out.. Yep nothing but sex after that. Then everything came to a hault!!!! I was like What, Wait, Hold Up, What the fuck happened? i thought everything was cool!?! I was Wrong! Very Wrong! So a year or two passes and I see him again at a club, we exchanged numbers and yep it happened again. It went on for three months and then NOTHING!! He's a ghost. So a year and a half later I get a FB message (since we did exchange words there before) and of course the message started of with greetings and salutation (in the back of my mind I'm thinking I know exactly where this may/will end up, so let me say my peace NOW). I wanted answers to questions like "why do we talk and do what we do for a couple of months then stop?" and even down to "Am I just your piece of ass when you break up with your girl?" I wanted/needed clousure from this because I attached myself (emotions) to this man and expected things from him that I was NEVER going to get. Now of course I was nieve thinking that using my pussy would bring about a relationship. I was highly wrong and stupid... but hey we all need to grow up right? RIGHT!!! (Nod your head in agreement.. lol thanks) Long story( yes I'm a little longwinded, but you needed the details.. LOL) short I got the answers to some questions not all. But I can and did figure them out for myself. I didn't need to play myself like a yo-yo anymore.. Drop my life when he wanted some(pussy) and pick it back up when he was ghost. Even my girls told me to stop dealing with him.. but yeah didn't listen to them shit, What did they know?! Welp they knew he wasn't worth my time so I should've listened to them.. Damnit could've saved myself a hell of a lot of time! (Thank you MY and MK :)) Welp that is over and sone with no going back to that or starting another situation that will end up the same way. Not bashing him (trust me I wish him and his new girl the best of luck... I do mean that...somewhat), he needed closure as well and I hope he got it. Now to the reason I like to call this BONFIRE I titled this Bonfire because this is my chance to let the past "fuck(s)" BURN. Light a match and let all those emotions go... yes!!!!! I know I'm not the only one either... I KNOW I"M NOT THE ONLY ONE ... (yeah I screamed a little) that has went through something like this or is going through something like this. My advice to you is to release all those emotions that were attached to that "situation" write a letter, tell em' how you feel, throw it in the grill or fireplace and watch that shit burn!! Throw away the couch and the bed (wherever you may have done the "business" and move on with life)... Trust me I have and it feels UMMM HMMM GREAT!!! Welp that's all I wanted to say for today at least... I look forward to your comments or tweets (@mochakdb) Smooches my loves!!

Battered and Bruised in the name of LOVE

As I type this blog my blood is boiling, excuse me if I'm enraged and full of emotions and outraged with the decisions of the ones in this situation. "Love is Blind" by Eve is playing in the background....
You were friends before you were lovers, then you crossed the line into new territory. Like any relationshp it had it's ups and downs..... BUT.... it hit an all time low. Now you are battered physically and bruised emotionally with nowhere to go, noone to call on. AND THIS IS ALL INT THE NAME OF LOVE???!!!
Your family won't deal with you and your kids hardly see you, again I say THIS IS ALL IN THE NAME OF LOVE???!!!
MY QUESTIONS ARE WHY and HOW did is get his far??
How do you allow someone to bring physical harm in your life and call it love? Now along with verbal.... I cannot seem to wrap my mind around it. I also don't understand why you wouldn't press charges against your abuser? To let him get away scott free not only puts you in danger but anyone that gets tangles in his deceptive ways with his charming smile and warming personality.
IS THIS REALLY LOVE??
This is my PLEA!!!!! GET OUT OF DODGE NOW before it's too late. I've lost tooo many over senseless acts IN THE NAME OF LOVE, I don't want to lose you!!!


Domestic Violence Hotline NC (919) 828-7740
Interact 1012 Oberlin Road.
Raleigh, NC 27605

Skull Gang "I Am The Club" featuring Juelz Santana

Deniro who goes last in this song, puts "on" for local NC clubs. I had to share this video with you guys

What defines a real man

Is it:

The amount of money he makes?
The size of his "peter" for those youngins?
The success he has in life?
His views on life topics?
His intimacy and I don't mean in the bed?
His mannerism?
His relationship with his mother?
His honesty?

Let's face it there a many factors out there that I think make up a real man.
But where if he doesn't have everything?
Let's be honest here! Would you wait for him, or would you say "forget it" and maybe miss out? Men do mature slower than women, trust me I have spoken to some and they are not ashamed to say it.

Now in a relationship would you work with your partner and teach them how you want to be loved?
For me I beleive when you are at the point in your life where you know what and who you want, then HELL YES!
We all know that life is a learning experience and every relationship, whether it is a friendship or lover, needs guidance from both halves.
Which brings us to the famous word... COMMUNICATION. Yes I believe this is the key to success in any relationship. No matter what, you should talk about how you feel on certain subjects. You can be the judge of when it is the right time to speak and how to say it. Once you overcome that you should be just fine!

Talk to me ladies and gentlemen

Dangerous

Mysterious in all ways

Captavating when looked upon

Intriguing when thought about

Venomous when messed with

I was your lethal injection

Your bee hive

I stung you with my love

It ran it's course though your body

day in and day out

then your body started to reject it

I was your drug, your high

You rose when called upon by me

Now you're gone

Should I find another to whip my appeal on

Or should I find you and make it true once again

Only time will tell......

Written Oct. 23, 2006

Do U Qualify

DO YOU QUALIFY
DO YOU QUALIFY TO BE THE BLACK MAN I NEED YOU TO BE
DO YOU QUALIFY TO HAVE EVERY ASPECT OF ME
BUT WOULD YOU WANT TO SPEND A LIFETIME WITH ME
WOULD YOU WANT TO SHARE YOUR INTERESTS AND FANTASYS
CAN YOU BE MY KNIGHT IN SHINING ARMOR
WOULD YOU BE HONORED TO BE WITH ME
WOULD YOU PUSH ALL OTHER CHICS ASIDE
WOULD YOU WANT TO SHARE YOUR PRIDE
MY BLACK BROTHA STRONG AND HANDSOME
WOULD YOU WANT ME OF WHO I AM
WOULD EVERYDAY UNFOLD NEW FEELINGS
WOULD YOU BE AFRAID TO TELL ME YOU LOVE ME
WOULD IT BE AN HONOR FOR ME TO HAVE YOUR CHILD
WOULD YOU WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ME
CAN WE BE
CAN WE BE THAT COUPLE WE NEED TO BE
WOULD PEOPLE BE JEALOUS OF OUR RELATIONSHIP
YOU AND ME
CAN WE CHERISH EACH MOMENT LIKE IT WAS OUR LAST
CAN I BE THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS THE ONE TO ERASE YOUR PAST
CAN WE BE THAT INDESTRUCTIBLE COUPLE NOT LETTING ANYONE RUIN US
DO I QUALIFY
DO I QUALIFY TO SHOW YOU OFF
DO I QUALIFY TO BE THE WOMAN FOR YOU
DO I QUALIFY TO HAVE YOUR TRUST AND HONESTY
DO I QUALIFY TO BE YOUR LADY
DO I QUALIFY TO HAVE THE LOVE OF YOUR FAMILY
DO I QUALIFY TO BE IN YOUR LIFE
CAN I
CAN I LOVE YOU ONCE AND FOREVER MORE
CAN I LOVE EVERY ASPECT OF YOU EVEN YOUR FLAWS
CAN I PUT MY FEET IN YOUR SHOES AND UNDERSTAND WHERE YOU ARE
CAN I BE YOUR FRIEND WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED AND YOUR LOVER FOREVER
CAN I BE THE MOTHER OF YOUR CHILDREN THE NURISHER AND PROVIDER
CAN I BE THE ONE YOU COME HOME TO THE ONE TO COOK FOR YOU
CAN I BE THE ONE WHO MAKES YOUR HEART FLUTTER
CAN I BE THE REASON YOU SMILE

CAN I BE, CAN WE BE, DO I QUALIFY, DO YOU QUALIFY, DO WE QUALIFY

Oct. 16,2006